Yep this was a huge factor in my PND. Not being able to spread myself between my 2 children properly. I had them 2 years apart and it really sucked. To be totally honest my first son was way too dependant and didn't cope well, my baby had severe reflux so was constantly needing something. I was always brushing off my toddler to deal with the baby, and it really hurt me that i couldn't meet his needs. I don't like to say that i regret it, but if i had it to do over i would have had a 3+ year age gap. Only now that my baby is nearly 1 and my toddler is nearly 3, am i finally able to care for them both equally. The only upside is that my toddler has had to become really independant because of this and i guess thats a good thing.

I always wanted 3 children, but for this exact reason and the experience i've had, i will only have 2 because i just can't see how i could meet the needs of 3.