How to gently discipline when they are so little.....

[Olive]

tan i do what you do, if she say hurts somone i tell that hurt ....... if you do it again you'll sit on the floor by yourself, give ..... a kiss to say sorry, if she does it again then i simply remove her from the situation and place her away on the floor facing the opposite way and walk away! so not really time out yet but she seems to understan the concept

[FluffyLaRue]

Re direction is my preferred method of dealing with babies. They are too young to understand, however- you still tell them very simply why you re removing them from a situation/toy/game/whatever.
Tanties I ignore- give them 50 seconds of screeching and they crawl/walk over for a big cuddle. It's ok for them to express how frustrated they are, imo, it's a valid emotion and best expressed so they can get on with the next activity

[Ozziehoffy]

I usually say "ta for mummy" at the same time I'm taking whatever it is. He doesn't usually seem to mind so much then. A few times just recently DH has just taken whatever from him without saying anything and he's screamed about it. I think that they do understand more than we think and he seems to understand "snatching" or "taking nicely". When he does chuck a tanty I actually do either a gently "shhhh no tantrums" or I completely ignore it and it's over before you know it. So, he gets attention and praise for his good efforts/play etc but nothing for the tanty.

I do use redirection when he keeps opening the same door in the kitchen...lol. I haven't worked out how we can child lock it properly yet, it's right next to the oven and needs to be heat proof. Redirection works sometimes for us.

[Kazbah]

One of the ladies in my mum's group has a whole repertoire of noises she makes. There's a "ooooh" noise for no, a "shhhhhhhhh" noise for possible pain (eg near the fire/heater) and then there's a sharp "NO" when he ignores all that. Works for her, but she's got her DH trained well. I don't But good luck.

[Matryoshka]

Definately re-direction... so offering an alternative to what they were wanting. I usually say "uhoh yoghurt not for DS but lets go play with this".

[Beach Mama]

Thanks for all the suggestions ladies, sounds pretty much like what I have been doing, but with the tantys I wondered if there was something I've been missing! Redirection seems to be the way to go with an explanation of why xxx was dangerous etc.... Keep the ideas coming though!!

MummaB your ticker pic is gorgeous!!!!!!!!! Not long to go hun!

[Matryoshka]

Thanks Tan

I also find using appropriate facial expressions helps convey the message - i never raise my voice or use a negative tone because i don't see it as misbehaviour - just discovering and learning and i dont' want to squash that drive to experience.

So if he's trying to get something and makes a mess or spill, i just say Uhoh in a really animated way and pull a face to display yuckiness and then explain that we should leave the yoghurt on the bench because if it falls down its very yucky to clean up - if the spill has happened, get her involved in the clean up with some paper towels, i did this from a young age and whenever something spills my DS is the first to pick it up and try to help.