I think the situation has alot to do with it. I have 3 kids. If I comforted him to sleep all the time, it would be impossible to do anything else. I still have to get DD1 ready for school & DD2 always wants something while I'm trying to get him to sleep.
I would love to cuddle him to sleep. I often do, but with my older kids it's really hard during the day.
Everyone is different, the same as every child is different. I need DS to learn to self settle.
If I have a bad night I can't catch up on sleep the next day. Sure I can handle a bad night on occasion, but the sleeping problems here have been going on for weeks. I need him to start to sleep better for the sake of my family. I don't know how else to do it.