i agree with u to an extent TFB and i talked to DH and he said no way then he told me u said u were finished could u deal wit these 2 and a baby it sounds like he has left the decision to me but pointing out all the ways i wouldnt be able to cope he knows me and hes right i wouldnt cope especially since i want a full time job and save a deposit for a house definately not possible with another baby
the way he is i dont think he would care if i really wanted another one he would let me but i have thought about it and right now is not the time for another baby
So many circumstances can make you say a "definite no" and it sounds pretty normal to change your mind. I had tough ride after each babe, so much I thought I was done.
I did not nag DH, but it is worth the gentle chats. My DH is also in a different head space too (our youngest is nearly 4 and we have the "head and heart space" now for another baby).
Just begin the chats,gently, then you will know.
Much love
xoxo
I think you just need to find the right time and be honest with your DH.
After DD2 was born both Dh and I were adamant that we were finished. We were happy with our little family. Then in the year after DD2 was born we went through some things that made me change my mind. I just knew we werent finished. Perhaps my saving grace was that I blurted it out to Dh as I realised that I wasnt finished, neither he or I were ready for the conversation. It took a lot of talking, a lot of understanding but we worked it out. Obviously we decided on a 3rd.
But you need to talk to each other. Come to a decision, it may mean that you need to talk a few times, but you need to.
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