I think i've changed my mind

[*TripleJ*]

i think i want another baby
i dont know how to tell DH i told him i was definately finished
now i dont know

[LuluHB]

I told my DH that I was done the second DD2 was born. It was almost 3 years later that I dropped the bombshell on him. It took him a bit to come around (he's the go away and think about things quietly kind of person), but (obviously!) he agreed.

I think its natural to waiver in what you thought was an absolute finish to your family. As your kids grow your feelings change - at least mine did.

[*TripleJ*]

even 1 month ago i still thought i was done it just changed all of a sudden when i had a preg scare yesterday

[PumpkinZulu]

Would be be open to another baby? So it was just a scare, you're not utd?

[*TripleJ*]

as far as i know the test was - i think i am now but i didnt realise i could change my mind so suddenly

[Arimeh]

I understand

....I've been "done" twice now.... and who knows what the future will bring....lol

[phynna]

Lol go on, get into bed and make some babies chicky! I knew you'd end up clucky again sooner or later lol

[Arcadia]

Yes I know that feeling! I have toyed with the idea of finishing now, but I can't comprehend never being pg again or birthing again, or holding and feeding that tiny baby *melting heart

[loulabelle]

disagree ^^

you're lives together are a joint decision. just talk to him, suss how he feels about it. The only way you'll know if its a possibility is to talk. xx

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[PumpkinZulu]

TFB, I know you're coming from a place of hurt But I guess you can apply how TripleJ is feeling in a different way to your own situation. I know if I wanted more children, I'd absolutely need to explore that with my partner. As you know, the urge is overwhelming and consuming, if I felt room in my heart for one more, it would be extremely difficult to ignore that.

[*TripleJ*]

i agree with u to an extent TFB and i talked to DH and he said no way then he told me u said u were finished could u deal wit these 2 and a baby it sounds like he has left the decision to me but pointing out all the ways i wouldnt be able to cope he knows me and hes right i wouldnt cope especially since i want a full time job and save a deposit for a house definately not possible with another baby
the way he is i dont think he would care if i really wanted another one he would let me but i have thought about it and right now is not the time for another baby

[JoyMama]

So many circumstances can make you say a "definite no" and it sounds pretty normal to change your mind. I had tough ride after each babe, so much I thought I was done.
I did not nag DH, but it is worth the gentle chats. My DH is also in a different head space too (our youngest is nearly 4 and we have the "head and heart space" now for another baby).
Just begin the chats,gently, then you will know.
Much love
xoxo

[beansbeans!]

I think you just need to find the right time and be honest with your DH.

After DD2 was born both Dh and I were adamant that we were finished. We were happy with our little family. Then in the year after DD2 was born we went through some things that made me change my mind. I just knew we werent finished. Perhaps my saving grace was that I blurted it out to Dh as I realised that I wasnt finished, neither he or I were ready for the conversation. It took a lot of talking, a lot of understanding but we worked it out. Obviously we decided on a 3rd.

But you need to talk to each other. Come to a decision, it may mean that you need to talk a few times, but you need to.

[helle]

Changing your mind means youre alive