First - you are NOT a useless mum. You are learning, everyone gets thrown in the deep end with a baby and its like we are expected to know what to do!! Well, we don't. They are new little people, even on your 2nd or 3rd - they are usually so different than the 1st child that you are continuously learning new things.

Both of mine liked to be settled in different ways. DS liked being patted and have a dummy. DD liked being rocked in a certain motion and wouldn't settle any other way.

Have you had her checked for any reflux problems? DD had silent reflux so she wouldn't stay asleep for more than 5 minutes at around 8 weeks of age. Which was most frustrating when I had a toddler who was just cutting out his day sleeps at the same time!

So try and chill a bit - I always say in my head when I'm trying to settle them - ahh well, if they don't go to sleep its ok - so if they DON'T - it IS ok. And if they do - BONUS!!

You are doing a fantastic job. Keep up the good work