You are doing a great job! DD1 was exactly the same - and I was stressed out about sleep/routine etc. Oh and ignore all those little comments people make - I am sure they mean well (or at least don't mean to make you feel bad). I found it really hard going from work - where I had feedback and could feel I was making head way to being at home. I had to change my way of looking at things! I have found that walking daily helped me feel better too.
Keep doing whatever works for the two of you - and celebrate the little things!