Ok i'm back here, i NEED some ideas for BOTH of the girls.
They are both sick at the moment and are in some SHOCKING habits, the whinging, whining and general rude behavior has to stop as they are driving me MENTAL.

So i thought i better recap here but i need to come up with some ideas - i do yell, i do threaten to smack and i do smack i'm not proud of it but in the past it has worked.
But things are not working and while DD1 apparently is a gorgeous angel when at kinder and the like she's not at home and it's driving me bonkers.

RULES:
1. Limit the TV - now that the weather is getting nicer i'm thinking TV in bed in the morning while DP gets ready for work then not again until late afternoon. (this will take some getting used to as it's my babysitter while doing invoices & the like)

2. I need to break the whinging for something cycle - HOW? DD2 will cry and cry and cry and ask for specials (which can be fruit, biscuits or milk etc) and if i say no they try and get it from the cupboards themselves.

3. Set bedtime & night time routine - no falling asleep on the couch - dinner, bath, TV, story & bed.

4. Rules for making their bed and tidying their room - this needs to happen daily, they NEED to start picking up things and knowing i wont just do it.. DD1 made her own bed yesterday and was so proud, so i'm getting out the rewards chart again and letting her do these things.

Argh i know there is more.. need to work on a tactic for naughty behavior and a time out spot?