The bath in tea tree oil has helped a lot - she has lost that 'dirty kid smell' iykwim.
Would lavendar oil work? Tea tree reacts with mine and DD's skin badly and DD has had nasty red bits that she was scratching today. they look all welty and such. She has had a few spots from the bath lately because of the water changing so I think it's made her itchy.

I'm glad your DD is at an understanding Saram. It's so gorgeous she didn't want to make her vagina angry.