I just came here to post a vertually identical question, so has been great to read all the comments!!

My DD is 5 Months and i have been cuddling her to sleep and wondering if it was time to stop as all i hear from friends/general people is ''your just creating problems for your self later''...''rod for your back'' ''If you go to her as soon as she cries she will learn that all she has to do is cry to get your attention'' etc back blah blah.

We have a feed in her room, sometimes falls asleep then, if not cuddle till she is asleep then put her in her cot. She CAN self settle, some nights she will decide she dosnt want to cuddle to sleep and will very happily chat to herself in her cot till she falls asleep. But ALL day sleeps and most night sleeps we cuddle to sleep.

I have found that DD will know when she is ready to do something and i should just follow her. Like someone said...you dont hear of many 12 year olds needing to be cuddled to sleep! And i agree, its such a nice time and so special i dont mind one bit! Also it will be easier to change when she is older and can understand more.

I read an article on here about controled crying (the con of controled crying, worth a read) as someone suggested i try it....not for me!!
I like the advice on how others have slowly managed to change to pattern, i will try that if i have to when the time comes!!

Trust the way your doing things, everytime i think ''maybe im doing something wrong'' i always end up annoyed that i ever doubted myself! It sounds like you are doing a great job!!