Wow, that was a great answer, Mayaness!

If it is just sneezing etc that makes Jonathan start, then that's fine. Loud behaviour can and should be toned down. With DS, it was toys in his face that made him upset with DH; I've spoken to DH and now toys are brought to DS slowly. Oddly enough, DS is fine with me being loud and toys jumping at him when I'm doing it, just no-one else. But he gets scared of anyone else shouting, which is one reason I'm seeing some friends less and less.

One thing made me laugh at DS the other day, he was playing the piano (LOL, he's not a virtuoso just yet) and decided to really go for it. So he hammered the keys and started crying because it was too loud! Time to learn some cause and effect, I think! Luckily when he's not too wound up he joins in laughing.

BTW, there are some positives. Last night DH was *supposed* to be watching DS while I was in the kitchen. I had to shout "Liebling! NO!" as I came in the room to see DS trying to chew on the TV cable. It stopped him straight away and he started on DH's hat. DH then took an interest and said "No! Naughty Liebling!" and DS just burst into tears. So it does make them stop, which if it's life or death (as a cable can be, but a hat isn't IMO) is a really good thing.

But I am going to have to talk to DH about the use of the word "naughty" because I don't use it. DS is a good boy and XYZ isn't a good boy action, so it was odd he did XYZ action. I don't tell him he's naughty.