Secretly worried

[meow]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I seriously, seriously recommend you read "Gut and Psychology Syndrome"- it will help you see why your children have the behaviours they have AND you'll find it can be fixed!! Which is extremely awesome

I'm wondering why you say you are being forced to toilet train your son? 2ys 4mths is at the young end for ANY boy to toilet train so I'd be dropping it for now seeing he doesn't seem ready.

[Razzberry]

Hun, you sound like you are under alot of pressure at the moment. Who is forcing you to toilet train? As an Early Childhood teacher I can remember learning at uni that kids have to have "maturation" to TT which means their brain and bladder are sending the correct symbols, until this point kids can be taken to the toilet 1000 times and sometimes may do something but they wont be TT until they are ready.

I am a big believer in early intervention. Don't know if you remember but my DD had physio for a year for low muscle tone and was slower to crawl, walk etc.I hated the fact that she wasn't able to physically do what other kids were doing, but going to the physio with her and doing all the exercises gave me something to focus on.

I have taught many kids in kinder whose parents have told me their child had a language delay or this or that but had early intervention and now at school age have caught up, its the ones that don't get in early that have trouble later on, as is harder to catch up.

I really recommend seeing your GP to get a referral to a good paediatrician who can steer you in the right direction, do testing, reassure and support you and the kids. Alot of paeds do bulk bill, so not always expensive.

And last of all, kids do develop at different rates. DD has only started talking lots in the last 3 months. xxx

[Nai]

Oh hun Personally I would also drop the TT. it doesn't sound like he is ready, I know neither of my girls were at that age. Does he nod and shake his head for yes and no? If so, can you look in to baby signing to help him communicate if he doesn't have the words?

I agree with the above posts - trust your gut instinct and get him looked at, persist if you need to until you feel comfortable with the answers. Look st the GAPS diet and give it a go - it can't hurt.

As for Kat, it sounds like reflux to me. If she is lying down and it is painful for her it is likely that the reflux is coming up. I would also get her looked at for this and also look at how you can help her by propping up her mattress, the foods you eat etc.