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A simple request- don't feed my one year old Frozen Coke!!
Hi all,
My bleeping SIL just does not get it. It's a simple request- do not feed ds frozen coke. Please. He does not need it, for very obvious reasons.
Yep, I appreciate you taking him off my hands for a few hours. But I have told you time and time again. Today you even let himhave 'one more sip', right in front of me, while saying 'Don't tell mummy'. It's not a difficult concept- sugar and caffeine are not good for little kids.
Ok, so, rant over nowBut the question is, what do I do? If I've asked very politely for her not to give ds soft drink of any kind, and she insists on doing it, what do I do? I think I'm going to have to stop the outings with SIL if she can't follow the rules, but that feels like cutting off my nose to spite my face- ds loves going out with her for a few hours, and I love the break I get.
But how else to handle this? How to make my SIL realise I'm actually very serious about this issue?
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Less polite. Tell her this is important to you, you hate feeling like you're being undermined or like your wishes as his mother don't matter to her, and that mch as ds loves being with her it can't happen if you can't trust her to follow your wishes.
You're the mummy, you get to say what goes.
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hugs hun, I know how you feel, my aunty only today thought it was hilarious to dip DS dummy in her champagne!
You may have to be very clear with her, hard, I know, but I had to do it with my mum when she insisted on giving DS icecream and cake and cream etc at 3 months of age! mind you I just threatened to never let her babysit, it worked!
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I can't believe she would even think it is ok to give a child (especially a one year old!) coke, frozen or not!
Maybe you need to get tough with her, seems like she thinks it is a bit of joke, sneaking it to him behind your back. Maybe show her some pics of what happens to children that get fed coke and other food/drink full of sugar...I'm sure you know the ghastly teeth pictures!
I would be so annoyed too. I hope you can get through to her
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Yeh that hun, i cant believe she did that either
I would be so annoyed too. I hope you can get through to h
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Noone I know would dare! A cousin once bought DD1 a can of coke, at 5, & I told him to never do it again.
The girls are old enough now though to say they aren't allowed coke.
Maybe just say, don't ever give him coke again. He's a baby & does not need caffeine, sugar & all the other crap in it! How old is she? My 19 year old sister has always stuck by my rules even though she was only 12 when DD1 was born. So have my 16 year old SIL & 13 year old BIL.
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Unfortunately, she's 36. With a 14 year old of her own. You would really hope she knew better, but no
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As much as you enjoy the breaks, I'd threaten to stop the visits. My sister's done the same thing with our Mum, and Mum stopped doing it straight away! Just say, 'Listen, I've asked nicely quite a few times, but if I can't trust you to respect my parenting wishes when you have my son, I won't be leaving him in your care'.
I know, easy to say from my end
Lucy in the sky with diamonds.
I suppose you could insist that she keeps him until the sugar high wears off.
Actually that was a rule I had - if you stir my kids up, YOU cool them down again. Worked for me
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Unfortunately I've seen plenty of parents put it in their babies bottles
Maybe you need to get tough with her, seems like she thinks it is a bit of joke, sneaking it to him behind your back. Maybe show her some pics of what happens to children that get fed coke and other food/drink full of sugar...I'm sure you know the ghastly teeth pictures!
I would be so annoyed too. I hope you can get through to her
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I would be stern with her and say no sugar and if she cant listen then she wont be able to take care of him, its really not a hard request to abide. Its why im worried when i have because my SIL's kids are always hyped on sugar and theyre so cranky all the time and i want happy kids. And i know she would feed my kids sugar just to pee me off. Oh not to mention her 3 yro has 3 missing teeth because his teeth were weak and he smacked his mouth running into a wall, he had no enamel on his teeth
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That's what I say tooI suppose you could insist that she keeps him until the sugar high wears off.
Actually that was a rule I had - if you stir my kids up, YOU cool them down again. Worked for me
Maybe if you remind her that she probably wouldn't have liked it if someone undermined her when her child was little. I understand the cutting off your nose to spite your face thing too cos I have the same issue
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I would be stern as well, your child your rules, though somedays, actually most days I would love for someone to take at least one of my children for a couple of hours.
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COKE IN A BABY'S BOTTLE??????? Are you serious????? That's insane.
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I was at a friend's going away BBQ last week. Let's just say that the crowd was 'different' to the sort of people I - or anyone I know - tends to hang around.
Two small children (no more than 2 at the oldest, neither could really talk) came in to the living room with bottles full of coke, curled up on the couch and drank their bottles. I was in such utter shock DH had to usher me outside.
At the same party, the kids were lining up to play 'gambling' with the old pokies machine the family had in the garage...
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