TFB, DD is behind on expressive language (we just finished 6 months of speech therapy) and won't answer the question when I ask what is wrong. I ask it A LOT and never get an answer. I'm really looking forward to the day she starts answering it so that I don't have to guess as much... But I digress...

I wouldn't say he wants to be the one to put her to bed, but he chooses to be the one doing it... And he chooses to do it alone by telling (ie yelling at) me to leave when I try to help...

DD does appear to be afraid of the dark and (because there's nowhere inaccessible to her to place a nightlight) we are forced to leave her room light on all night or she screams the house down. We have covered it to reduce the light as much as possible, but there's only so much you can dim a fluoro light... When we have some money (hopefully soon), we plan to get an electrician in to install a better solution (lights with a dimmer switch or a plug up high where she can't reach it so we can put a nightlight up on a shelf), but for now it's the best we can do. If we turn it off after she is asleep, she screams when she wakes during the night... Since DH is the light sleeper in our house, her waking screaming will just be a cue for another midnight snack...

Until we gave up on her daytime, she was often up until midnight because she just wouldn't sleep. Now that we've dropped the nap, she's going to bed around 7pm and generally asleep by 9pm, but it depends on the night - sometimes she goes to sleep quickly, sometimes it's an hours long saga... Last night, for example, she was clearly tired (yawning and rubbing her eyes while sitting on my lap) and we ended up with a huge tantrum. Staying up later would only have made it worse...