Mel, it's a very individual thing as you know. And people will argue both sides of this. But for me, I love having my two boys close together (19 months). Sure it's hard some days. Sure there are times when they both need something at the same time. But you manage. And I truly do not believe that either boy is missing out on anything. They are learning early on about sharing mummy. And they love being around each other - Tom lights up when Jack is around, and Jack can't get enough of cuddling, kissing and patting "little brudda Tom". And I take every opportunity to spend one on one time with each of them. We still get good quality time and the boys are happy.

Honestly, the hardest thing is probably that they have different routines. So for example TOm might be ready for a sleep (or already asleep) when we have to go to Jack's playgroup. But we manage. Tom sleeps in the car or the sling so if anything I guess he's learning early to be adaptable.