mel - i am totally in the exact same predicament. we started ttc#2 3 months ago then this month i freaked out about coping and now im back on the pill, but everyday i worry whether im making the right decision. I think giving Archie a bro or sis close in age would be a wonderful experience, learning about sharing and caring and all that and i don't believe he would miss out on anything.

some days i want to go through it all again immediately, some days i want to wait 4 years! DH took a bit of convincing to have another baby at all, but his conditions were that we try for another one straight away as he feels he is getting too old. i think it would also be great to get that baby stage over and done with in one hit, cause sometimes i think the older Archie gets the less likely i will be to have another one.

i too am scared about how long it will take to get pg again, archie took 14 months (not very long in some peoples books, i know) and i also get scared of another m/c and how i would handle all that emotional stuff and still be a good mum.

what if i have terrible m/s, what if something is wrong with the baby? what if what if what if???????

some days i tell myself to just go for it and get it over and done with, after all a beautiful baby is worth all the hard work.

aarrrggghhhh its doing my head in!

i really hope you don't think i have hijacked your thread, just wanted to share my story so that maybe we could help each other through these important decisions.

BTW Kiara looks so precious, i would dearly love a pink baby, though i adore my blue one

Melanie R - how did you cope with pg and a baby? how did you cope feeling sick and exhausted during pg?? this is prob my main concern. how did your body cope compared with your first pg?