I have only a 13 month age gap between my 2 girls and yep you do cope. Its hard when they are so close in age and still so reliant on mummy and daddy BUT I swear it is the best thing we ever did. I must say even though jasmine and Gemma were both planned as I had to go onto clomid to concieve I was still shocked when I fell pregnant with Jasmine in the first month of trying. Gemma was only 4 months and like Melanie I had a hard pregnancy with Jasmine. I also had gastro, 3 times and was admitted to hospital for severe dehydration, then when things started to get better my gallbladder packed it in!! The pregnancy was the hardest part having Gemma starting to walk and crawl and all that, while I had a HUGE belly and playing with her on the ground was also a challenge but now seeing Gem and Jaz's faces light up when they see each other just makes it all so worth while. It really is such a personal decision though. Goodluck in deciding!!