I have conflicting feelings too. We're getting ready to TTC - possibly next month! And I wonder how I'll cope. But like someone said - you DO cope - just coz you have to! And that's what I'm relying on!

I think one thing to remember is #1 will be 9 months older by the time #2 arrives, and 9 months is a big difference in what the child is like! Kiara will be over 1 by then, and they amuse themselves quite well by then - Tallon does at 10 months anyway And then it's another 6 months or so before #2 is on the move.. so the dynamics will be completely different by then too. Altho.. being pregnant and chasing a 7-10mth crawler around would be VERY tiring! We've waited out almost the 12 months before ttc

As for financially - surely #2 won't cost much? For us, we already have the cot, pram & hugabub, all we'll need is a bed for DS so that the cot is free! We also already have a stash of cloth nappies - so nappies will cost next to nothing (altho DS will most likely still be in nappies for a while, so I might buy a few more ) and breastfeeding is free! hehe. Clothes - most of them were gifts, and if #2 is the same gender there's handmedowns! Infact - I think the $4000 we'll get will be mostly savings! yay! - oh- we'll need another carseat. I'm sure I'll think of things if I think long enough lol.

Go with your heart. Be sensible of course re finances etc.. but I'm sure you'll cope just fine with 2 littlies