What am i missing?

[BrightSparkles]

couldn't read without offering
Its hard i can relate on so many levels!

lots of xxx

[indie24]

Couldn't read with out offering some support. You are doing a great job. Your DD obviously feels loved and secure with you. Hoping you get some "me" time soon

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

Thanks so much everyone, i think i am just so so tried and drained and i know it's normal and each child is different but i hate to see her upset.
I wish i could say 'the dishes will be there when i'm ready' but DP wouldn't accept that and sometimes i think he thinks i am making excuses.
If this is who she is then i love her no matter what, i just wish instead of those horrible pearcing screams she had a nice quiet little girls voice...

[Arcadia]

My dd was/is a mummy's girl. Do you have a sling? DD spent her first year strapped to me while I did things because she just needed to be close. Can you cosleep with her until this phase passes? Its madness to traipse the hallways when they wake more than twice. If DH doesn't like cosleeping, can you sleep on a mattress on the floor, or kick out DH to the couch?

It is normal for bubs to wake more frequently when you introduce solids. I know some people say it will reduce night feeding, but in my experience, it lead to more wakings...because their tummys need to get used to it.

You are doing a fabulous job. I know the house isn't perfect, but seriously, the happiness of your children is more important. I would trial a sling and see if you can at least got your normal dishes done etc...and then ring all the relatives and ask them to pitch in for a cleaner for a year instead of giving you or DH birthday/christmas prezzies! lol.

It wiill pass. Your DD is perfect, and you're a great mum. You need more support. Can any local BBers help you out? Can someone take DD for a walk in the sling and the big DD in the pram so you can go to the gym??

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

My dd was/is a mummy's girl. Do you have a sling? DD spent her first year strapped to me while I did things because she just needed to be close. Can you cosleep with her until this phase passes? Its madness to traipse the hallways when they wake more than twice. If DH doesn't like cosleeping, can you sleep on a mattress on the floor, or kick out DH to the couch?

It is normal for bubs to wake more frequently when you introduce solids. I know some people say it will reduce night feeding, but in my experience, it lead to more wakings...because their tummys need to get used to it.

You are doing a fabulous job. I know the house isn't perfect, but seriously, the happiness of your children is more important. I would trial a sling and see if you can at least got your normal dishes done etc...and then ring all the relatives and ask them to pitch in for a cleaner for a year instead of giving you or DH birthday/christmas prezzies! lol.

It wiill pass. Your DD is perfect, and you're a great mum. You need more support. Can any local BBers help you out? Can someone take DD for a walk in the sling and the big DD in the pram so you can go to the gym??

co-sleeping doesn't work for me, don't get me wrong i love the cuddles but she wakes a lot more often when i am in a room with her, she has been in my bed the last 4 nights and it's driving me insane, i get a sore back or arm from sleeping around her etc.
She seems to feed to sleep of a night now then in her cot and she's waking when i go to bed 9i don't check on her or anything she just seems to know), i go in and give her a quick feed and then put her back into bed but 5min later she is screaming and wanting me or wanting to settle on the boob.

I have only just introduced solids because of this behaviour so i am not sure if it is adding to it in any way, will be intersting to see if she gets worse

A cleaner would be awesome but i am not a fan of other people doing the work or going through my things, i know it soudns strange but i couldn't even let people help me pack to move... it's odd i know..

It would be great if someone could take the girls for a walk etc but we live outside of town and there are no footpaths out here, DD is happy in the pram but we don't really have relo's that can just drop by and take them.
I would love if someone could come and watch them so i could go to the gym but as she wont take EBM or a dummy it's a bit hard on peoples nerves when i leave the room and she doesn't stop screaming

Hopefully it will pass and she will be like her big sister who happily waves at me when i leave her at nanna's...

[onthefly]

Trust me, it will pass, but you need to make things as easy as possible on yourself in the mean time.
A cleaner could stay out of private areas and just do the kitchen, etc... would that be a workable compromise? Has your DH ever been left with the kids to fend for himself? He really seems to have unrealistic expectations.
I found the same thing as Arcadia when introducing solids, winding it back a bit helped.
I really hope things improve for you - I truly know how hard it is when you're not getting any rest and nothign seems to work

[~ Zarava Flutterby ~]

Trust me, it will pass, but you need to make things as easy as possible on yourself in the mean time.
A cleaner could stay out of private areas and just do the kitchen, etc... would that be a workable compromise? Has your DH ever been left with the kids to fend for himself? He really seems to have unrealistic expectations.
I found the same thing as Arcadia when introducing solids, winding it back a bit helped.
I really hope things improve for you - I truly know how hard it is when you're not getting any rest and nothign seems to work

At the moment i am not even sure we could afford a cleaner ontop of my weird obsession with not leaving people alone in my house...

DP has had DD1 on his own when i took DD2 to QLD with me for a wedding and he is more than capable with her (although nothing around the hyouse got done - his excuse it was his only weekend off in 6mths), i would leave DD2 with him but she doesn't settle well and often needs the boob and she wont take EBM even from him.
He had DD1 for 6 nights when she was younger due to a stuff up with my gall bladder removal, he handled that quite well although she had only JUST taken the bottle through NEED and allowing her to scream until hungry, it was very hard for him to go through and i don't want to stuff DD2 around while i can still BF 100%.
I was quite angry my supply dried up due to medical issues with DD1 so don't want to jeopardise it this time.

I'm sorry i keep coming up with brick walls, i have an excuse for everything today i have the attitude i just don't care, both my girls seem to be sick now, DD1 had the most horrible running nose and just fell asleep watching ICE AGE.. she normally has 1 sleep a day and it's not until 1 or after.. so i KNOW she's not well.. argh.
DP an deal with the house being a mess, although he will say DD1 sleeping means i should have done more.. well toooo bad!

[Arcadia]

I wish I lived closer so I could give you a hand. You sound very isolated.

You need to rest in the day and not worry about housework.. Take care of yourself. You don't want to end up sick from exhaustion...I've been there and it's awful.

Eta: your poor dd. Hope she gets better soon. If she's unwell it's likely dd2 is getting it. My dd was awake every 30 mins for 2 nights when sick last week. Hang in there hun