Thanks so much everyone, i think i am just so so tried and drained and i know it's normal and each child is different but i hate to see her upset.
I wish i could say 'the dishes will be there when i'm ready' but DP wouldn't accept that and sometimes i think he thinks i am making excuses.
If this is who she is then i love her no matter what, i just wish instead of those horrible pearcing screams she had a nice quiet little girls voice...