DS seems to have trouble dealing with feelings of disappointment and of frustration when he's told he can't do or have something, or his embaressment? if he's in trouble for doing something naughty. He goes and tips over a piece of furniture (bit weird - he doesn't throw it down in frustration, he lays it down.. but with attitude LOL) or he walks up and hits something (wall, door.. whatever is nearby). I tell him not to hit things.. but I need to give him an alternative. I've read that kids don't respond to just being told not to do something.. they need to know what TO do. Such as saying "don't run.. walk". So what can I get him to do instead of hitting things, knocking furniture over and throwing books & toys around?

The other night when we said no more stories it's time for sleep, he starting kicking his legs, kicking us, and whinging. I told him not to kick, and asked him if he's feeling sad because daddy won't read him another story. He said yes and little tears came to his eyes (poor little man). So I'm trying to help him by describing for him what he's feeling, but how do we help him vent his frustrations without hitting & kicking?