What do you think the ideal age difference between siblings is

[mbear]

DD#1 & DD#2 - 29 Months
DD#2 & DD#3 - 19 months


Prefer the 29 month gap. DD#1 was that bit older, wasnt so clingy, was a bit more independent - her sleeping pattern was more established, she could be left alone for 5-10 mins whilst i changed newborn.....

I wanted #1 and #2 closer, but DH was studying for a promotion, so i had to wait . Looking back now, glad he did........

[~clover~]

By the way everyone....DON'T count on your older child staying toilet trained. I chose the age gap I have mainly coz I didn't want to be changing 2 lots of nappies, but DD2 has gone back to nappies full time. She started to go toilet around christmas time & was going really good til DS came home. At least she does number 2's in the toilet. I don't think I could handle that at her age.

I was kinda worried about it, but I'll let her decide when she's ready I think.

[lilima]

bjrose. I have heard of that happening quite a lot!

[sconeonamission]

I've always wanted two kiddlies... There is 22mths between my sister and I (and thats the gap her kids will have). But I want to start to TTC when DS is around 2.5yrs old. All depends on our situation too (when whe TTC).

[Willow]

I agree with Sarah - I have a gap of just under 3 years between mine two. But if we hadn't lost bub #2, there would have been about 20 months between our first and second.

This is definitely not the way I wanted things to go, I wanted my children much closer...the universe had other plans for us. But I must stay, now that I have a 3 yr old and a 7 month old, some days I do wonder how I would have coped. I know I would have (what choice do we have?!) but I do think about how challenging it would have been. I find myself spread too thin at times as it is.

[lilima]

I just read an article that OB/gyn recommend at least 2.5 years as that's how long it takes for your body to be "fully recovered" from childbirth.

[mrsmac]

I like 8 years and 6 years LOL!!! As a wise woman here said- the ideal gap is the one you have and I fully agree, everyone has their own opinion and the "right" gap for them.