Thanks ladies - anyone else with their 2 cents worth? All this assumes I get any say on when we will conceive. It took us until 2 weeks before my IVF appointment last time, so I'm sure it'll happen whenever it happens...
Well, we would have liked a two year age gap but that hasn't worked out due to secondary infertility issues. I am not pg yet & it looks unlikely unless we go down the IVF path. DD will be four in June, so if by some miracle if I fall pg next cycle, the age gap will be nearly 5 years...
Maybe run a poll & that will give you an average of the members who reply?
And he baby-sits!! That being said - if I was to go for number 3 (which would technically be number 5 for our family) I doubt I would wait another 15 years I am feeling very very broody and time is a ticking!
Last edited by Cass72; June 3rd, 2011 at 01:30 PM.
: Oh dear god!! I would be 53 eeek!!! I'm going to go and have a drink now.......
We have a 3yr gap and it was great. DS was old enough to really understand when I needed to look after DD and entertain himself for brief periods (which was lucky since she had bad reflux and hardly slept!). He was at preschool so I could nap some days, and he's such a loving big brother. They are still close enough to play together and they are good mates and have a lot of fun.
I would want the same or more if we had another one. It's worked well for us. Also I get very sick when I'm pregnant so I'd not consider it again until DD is at preschool and a lot more independent.
Glad to hear some opposing views. And to hear from those who've had DS's first. I wonder if that makes a difference...
Loulabelle - DS is clingy, doesn't play well by himself, follows me everywhere (including from the bed to the wardrobe when I'm hanging clothes up) and can be quite demanding. I worry about adding to that mix!
Kiwimummy - The preschool thing is a huge pro for having a bigger gap for me too! I want to be able to have some 1 on 1 time with a new bub.
Almost 3yr gap here. I am happy with it, but then again I know no better. You just make it work the best you can. I had planned for them to be closer, more like 2 1/2 yrs, but it did not work out that way and to be honest it was probably for the best. Physically, mentally and financially it was better for us to have that age gap. If anything looking back at it, I rather like the concept of a 4 1/2 yr gap.
DD1 was fully day toilet trained, so only had to worry about 1 in nappies during the day. She was a bit more independent and able to "help" mummy. Just like any kids they can get on so well one minute and fight the next.
I would just be cautious over setting an ideal gap, how would you deal with it if it did not happen? Would you spend your years going "of if only the gap was ... instead of ....1"
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I am feeling very very broody and time is a ticking!
that things work out for you soon.
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