Almost 3yr gap here. I am happy with it, but then again I know no better. You just make it work the best you can. I had planned for them to be closer, more like 2 1/2 yrs, but it did not work out that way and to be honest it was probably for the best. Physically, mentally and financially it was better for us to have that age gap. If anything looking back at it, I rather like the concept of a 4 1/2 yr gap.

DD1 was fully day toilet trained, so only had to worry about 1 in nappies during the day. She was a bit more independent and able to "help" mummy. Just like any kids they can get on so well one minute and fight the next.

I would just be cautious over setting an ideal gap, how would you deal with it if it did not happen? Would you spend your years going "of if only the gap was ... instead of ....1"