It took a few weeks for me to feel "love" for DS. Up until then, I think I was just overwhelmed/ shocked/ sleep-deprived. Birth was uglier than I expected, and I hadn't expected DS to be so "alien"-like!! I felt so distant. But I think the most helpful advice I was given while pregnant was not to be anxious if I didn't fall in love instantly - that it could take time. I can't even remember who told me that, but it was so wise & really helpful when the time came!