I agree with you all that consistency is important. I think sometimes I give in because I'm so tired of repeating myself. DD seems to know that she could push my limit since I'm not as consistent as DH. When it comes to DH, he's more consistent but I find that he's a little too strict with DD (she is afterall 8 months old).

I think what made me give in at times is that I'm frustrated and instead of raising my voice at her, I just let it go. Not a good mommy! I will try Sarah's suggestion and praise lots. Maybe that will make her realize what I like so she would do more.

Another thing that I have always done is by saying "no". I was told that toddlers hate to hear "no" and whenever they hear "no" they will do it on purpose. I'll have some word rephrasing to do so I don't have so be a parakeet in saying no!

By the way, is it okay to give a little tap on DD's hand when she's throwing things (food, water bottle) on the floor from her highchair after many "no". Or should I just remove these things from her if she keeps on throwing them on the floor?

I know that this age is very delicate and I really don't want to do anything to have a bad start...