Thanks everyone... I guess i have alot to think about. Again really hope that i havent upset anyone by asking....

I just though i'd rather avoid all the infections and issues by getting them done early... i dont think they look trashy but then again i wouldnt be going over the top with massive earings... just small sleepers or little studs perhaps...

Bjrose- thanks for the tip about getting both done at the same time. will keep that in mind.

I was thinking of getting mine done a second time when and if i get hers done also but now not really sure what to do about it... thanks again for all the replies