(1) to let baby sleep with blanket
I think i let Madison sleep with a cot blanket when she was about 10 months or so.

(2) to let baby sleep with pillow
Madison slept with a pillow when she was about 20 months or so, she had a bad cold and this helped her go to sleep, it was just a very thin one.

(3) to change crib to toddler bed
When madison was about 22 months, I had Charlotte when she was 20 months and she was not wanting to go to sleep in her cot, changed her to a big bed and she would go to sleep.

(4) to have her feed herself with forks/spoons (not finger food)
I would let Madison play with her spoon when i was feeding her around 11 months and when she was ready to use it, i let her, only now she will use a fork, but mainly will still use a spoon.

(5) to give her peanut butter
I waited until she was 1 year old.

(6) to potty train
I let Madison use the potty when she would want to this started about 21 months and now she is 2yr and 2 months she is using the toilet.

(7) to tell her when we get pg with #2 (no not even ttc yet!!)
I would let her know straight away or when you tell your family, I was pregnant with Charlotte when Madison turned 1 she new what was happening through out the pregnacy, and was so happy when Charlotte was born.

Hope this helps