I dont think bigger families are unhappy - but I know that mine, while perfectly normal, has its faults.
My mother was happy to fly over and see me when I had the miscarriage in January, but when I was in NZ 3 weeks later, she couldn't even give me the hug I yearned for. I have never heard her say she loves me, or give my father much affection at all, so she's just not maternal.

I know lots of families that are incredibly happy - regardless of whether there are 4 kids or 10!! Its how you make the family I guess.

Having seen how my mum is, I now understand what faults I dont want to have come through, so I make a special point of showing lots of affection to my daughter, and telling her I love her. I have a failed marriage that very well may have ended up like my parents one (who are still married after about 38y), and I knew it wasn't right.

I just think that some people have kids to fill a void, and others have them to fill a void in their souls that could only be filled by little bundles of trouble and delight . I hope that I can one day prove to my children that I love them exactly the way they are, and they are a joy in my life.

Fi