I have very limited time to decide whether to have another child (I'm almost 39) and my DD is only 8 months old.

I know that if we don't try, I will regret it in a few years time but equally, I'm really not sure how I would handle two littlies bearing in mind:

1. I had SPD (unstable pelvis) with DD1 from Week 28 until about six months after she was born. This made it difficult and very painful to walk, stand or bend. As you can imagine, that makes caring for a baby tricky and also difficult to get out of the house which has a negative effect on my mood. It was also very difficult for my partner to understand why I couldn't do stuff and that put a huge strain on our relationship which is only just getting better. This may happen again (the SPD) for no.2.

2. I had a lot of difficulty breastfeeding. My milk didn't come in until Day 6 and I spent the first two weeks spending 2.5 hours out of every 3 feeding (breast, formula, EBM) and the next two months expressing between three and five times per day (up to an hour per time).

I sound very negative but I'm just trying to be realistic - if both those situations repeated for no.2, it would be extremely difficult to look after two littlies. I love my DD to bits and if I had a few years up my sleeve would DEFINITELY be going for number two, but I don't have that luxury.

So ... my question is, was having two babies close together easier or harder than you imagined?