Tegan its really important for your kids to see Mummy & Daddy together & united. We HAVE to get out DH & I once a month. Just an idea but maybe asking at the MCHN's for advice? They may know someone in the local area who does it. I found by asking at the MCHN's that there is a program through a hospital about "adopt a grandparent" and sometimes if you get the little ones to sleep, you can go out with an easier mind. I know its hard, we have no family close by and have developed friendships with neighbours with children to get some help once in a while.