I'm sorry I can't offer any help, but was just reading this & wanted to give you **Big Hug** & say that recently I spent a weekend with a friend & her DS who is now 4 (in Dec) & she was saying how amazing it was. He is another person & she can't believe the change in him since "coming out the other side"..think thats how she put it. We even went out for tea & her Mum said 6months ago they never would have taken him to a cafe etc. So hope it all gets better for you soon......just remember no matter what, you love your kids & you are a great Mum!!