MmmHmmmm, got the same thing here.
Mitch is on a hair trigger and it doesn't help that his parents are not united on the parenting front iykwim?

Giving the warning thing is really, really important to Mitch.

The other thing I find is people try to talk to him too much. Are you giving DD mini lectures in why she shouldn't do this or that? I find that irritates both dd and myself.

EG - If DS is doing something wrong I warn him once, then take away whatever it is he is buggerising around with. No matter what. I don't yell (I have perfected the art of screaming inside my head lol), I don't bother explaining why bacause he KNOWS what he is doing is wrong.
dp will threaten, yell and never follow through. Ds ceases to listen once the voice is raised, and dp lectures him endlessly.
Then ds usually manages to play us off against each other, but we are trying really hard to stop this.

I am desperately looking for a 3 yr old kinder for him right now. I read over the weekend what a massive difference it makes in the behaviour of a 3 yr old. Apparently any budding crap behaviour can be nipped in about 95% of lilttle buggers.

I mean that in the nicest possible way (you knew that tho!).

Ds is capapble of being little Lord Fauntleroy any old time he pleases. He had lunch at the bluddy Yacht Club with mum a few months ago and charmed the pants off all and sundry.
Then we take him to the supermarket and he tells everyone they are a$$holes .

xoxoxo