seperation anxiety?

**Peta20** · March 13th, 2008, 01:48 PM

Does anyone have any tips/storys 4 bubs with seperation anxiety????

**rosehannah** · March 13th, 2008, 02:23 PM

Hi Peta, does your little one have separation anxiety? How old ? I have noticed bubs from about 9mths can suffer from SA when you leave the room etc. as they don't understand that you will come back.

**rosehannah** · March 13th, 2008, 02:34 PM

Back again... I found out from one of your other posts that bub is about 7 mths ? Are you concerned with leaving Tamsyn with other people ?

**Peta20** · March 14th, 2008, 09:08 AM

yeah shes 7 months, she cries wen other ppl hold her, wen i leave the room (even at home) she gets so worked up, it takes me about 20 minutes just to calm her down again, i feel so guilty wen i need to leave her with any one even just for 5 minutes

**melham74** · March 14th, 2008, 09:29 AM

Cooper is 12 mnths old but since he was 10mnths old he has been screaming when other people pick him up ect, even grandparents ect that he see all the time, I have been encouraging them to continue to pick him up ect but to also just sit on the floor to play with him, it is very frustrating and I wish I had some answers just hope they grow out of it soon.

**luua** · March 16th, 2008, 01:17 PM

Seperation anxiety is so tough for both mum and bubs.

Ella went through it/and is still going through it from 12 months on the dot.

I've been reading a lot about it as its a big thing for her. She used to get so upset when i go into the kitchen...

It seems like its a normal thing and that babies naturally want to be with mum all the time. Nothing beats a cuddle from mum

When they are with others they are very aware that its time away from mum (unless they are distracted) As they start to roll, crawl, or walk they will push the boundary and time away from mum more and more.

Ella will now crawl down the hallway of a cafe without having a problem. But when i move away from her in the living room she goes mental.

Just keep cuddling her when they need it. They feel more confident by themselves when they are full of cuddles and love.

But if you have to go. Get you grandparents (if that's the case) to hold her tightly and take her for a walk around the room. Distraction is best they will calm down after a while and eventually they will only grizzle for a minute. Its taken us a few months to get there!

Now we go to daycare and they do the same thing. When they see you again then they want lots of cuddles.

Mum is best.

Ann

**Charlyfrog** · March 18th, 2008, 07:45 PM

I agree with the distraction of a firm lovely cuddle from someone close.

DD#2 is 9months old and is extraordinarily clingy to the point that I wished we had had the video camera the other day

DH was holding her, DD#2 was complaining so upset and sad. DH stepped close enough to me so she could touch me - in went her thumb and she went quiet and relaxed when I was in touching distance.
DH moved away not more than 5 steps and DD#2 got so so upset so DH moved back next to me. Sure enough, all she had to do was touch me and she'd go quiet and pop her thumb in and relax........actually quite amusing

It does feel ever so lovely to know that someone simply adores you yet its so taxing when you know you have to go and do stuff and your little one seems as though their heart is breaking - not fun for a mummy heart, that's for sure.

With DD#1 we started to use the phrase, "Mummy is coming back" and after a long (long

) while she got it so I was able to move away, even out of sight and DD stayed calm.......bit hard to convince a 9 month old atm. I just am making sure that she is getting used to others looking after her and me either being out of sight or off to the side, but not paying attention.

Understand where you're coming from though love

~Belinda~ · March 18th, 2008, 09:57 PM

Sorry to hijack your thread but I need some advice too! Madeleine is 10 weeks old and if I leave the room for 2 seconds, she'll whinge for me, not cry uncontrollably or anything though. She really loves her Mummy! Anyone else experience this?

She co-sleeps too with me...won't go in her cot AT ALL...no matter how hard we've tried (we don't mind her sleeping with us though ATM)...

**Peta20** · March 19th, 2008, 08:03 PM

thanks everyone 4 comments and advice. i think its just harder 4 bub n me as her dad isnt around any more. im not sure whether thats when it began or not but i cant help feeling guilty 4 her. fingers crossed hopefully she'll grow out of it