hi all

Thanks so much for your entries! helps a lot to know that others have been there and gotten through it Yeah looks like the wonder weeks or 4 mth sleep regression is definitely what we are dealing with! knowing this makes it a little easier thats for sure.
Great advice from everyone as well, we have given her a muslin to sleep with sometimes but i'm not 100% sure whether it gets her more excited or not, I guess we have to choose either way so we aren't doing different things each evening. Teething-wise she seems to have all the symptoms though she has only just learnt to put things in her mouth and so far can't see or feel any teeth on the way. Will keep a check!
Might try the arms tucking into the bag as well, they do flail around a lot but not sure if its accidental as she seems to want them too now.

Heaven - she goes four hours between the two morning feeds but then about every 2.5 hours or so, i guess she does cluster feed in the evenings as I am always giving her more then but i've found she often throws up a lot when she has extra or bigger feeds so not sure if these are the right thing to do but if she wants it she can have it.
Yeah the patting and shhhing has only just started helping her calm, we find she doesn't really like cuddles as such, just being held over our shoulder or arm and rocked - which we are doing loads now

Once again thanks for all your help everyone!