We don't retaliate shop. I figure it probably all works out in the end.

If DH comes home and 'informs' me he needs to spend money, I am more likely to interogate him into submission. Or alternatively discuss it like adults and make a 'joint' decision (although, he does sometimes try to load the decision on my shoulders, so he has someone to blame if he 'cann't' do/spend whatever - but I refuse to be a party to that, and won't let up until he reaches his own conclusions). Really depends on what mood I am in and how 'reasonable' DH is being.