I appreciate that. And I can understand your view on things. I think my husband is a bit old school with the way he views things...I love him to death but he doesn't lift a finger around the house I do all the housework, cooking and looking after our Son. He brings in the money. I work 3 days for a bit of extra money, to give DS some socialisation at Kindy and because I love my job. I think I would be really devastated if I had to give it up. I honestly think that he sees it like if I work full time, stuff will get left and I'll be depressed having to leave DS. I admit it would be hard to leave my Son but if it came down to putting food on the table I would do anything. I would never judge other people's choices in how they do things....honestly, people like a good friend of mine are better parents because they work full time. She loves her children but she is devoted to her job in medicine and it's her life, and just because we have children, doesn't mean we should give up on our own lives.