I'm so sorry to hear of your loss.

Questioning, analyzing and critiquing advice is what we all do in our lives every day. It is no different when we hear advice from professionals in any field. An opinion can only really be called that when the person has information to use to form their own idea. BB encourages this spread of information.

I refuse to admit I make anyone feel bad because of my experiences. With the information I share you have free will to form your own opinion about it. Any judgement you feel comes from yourself. And I think the original post makes that very clear.

Go gently on yourself. None of us can foresee the future