Induction and C/S aren't always bad

[Amy_jellybean]

I completely agree with what you have said Divvy. I think however there is a difference between people giving their opinion and then people pushing their views on you and telling you that you are wrong when you make your own decision. I posted a thread recently about induction given the difficult situation I was in with DH's work and I was floored by some of the responses I had. I know it wasn't just me that thought it was a little forceful and inappropriate as I had several members PM who were also shocked with some of the responses I received.

I have to admit there are things on here that I would like to ask, but feel like I cannot ask because of the one sided views that I would have to deal with.

[Amity]

Amy_jellybean, I personally think you should be able to ask any question you need or want to ask. If people respond inappropriately or forcefully, PLEASE either report the post, or contact the appropriate moderators for that section. If you are after information from people who have been in that situation, then ask for responses only from those people. The moderating team are here to help - if there are issues, please bring them to our attention.

I support informed and educated choices. People told me I should definitely breastfeed. I chose not to, for my own reasons. People told me I should definitely VBAC. I chose not to, for my own reasons. People told me I should stay home and care for my small babies. I chose not to, for my own reasons. I am an educated and informed woman and I am not ashamed of my own choices. Looking back on them, I would absolutely make the same choices again.

Both Amy and Kateo - your choices are your own. I'll support you in your own decisions, whether or not I agree with them - because ultimately they are YOUR decisions which are right for YOU.

[Amy_jellybean]

Both Amy and Kateo - your choices are your own. I'll support you in your own decisions, whether or not I agree with them - because ultimately they are YOUR decisions which are right for YOU.

Thank you Divvy. I feel the same way, I will support anyones choice even if it isn't the one I would make for myself. I just wish there were other people on here with the same thoughts.

[kateo]

I know Obs tend to portray the need for intervention being needed more than it is. This is the reason I questioned this treatment of me when I was pg the first time.
How on earth do we tell when their offered intervention IS NEEDED ?????
How do we know the difference between an over careful doctor and one who has the true best interests of the mother and baby at heart?
I was led to believe most offered intervention is for Dr's convenience so I resisted intervention when I should have accepted it.
How as "lay people" can we know that any offered intervention is not immediately needed?????
I had a better relationship with the OB when I had my DS. Unfortunately because he counselled us about the details of my daughters passing (unexplained stillbirth) he knew me well for the next pregnancy.
He understood my great wish to have a live VB and he worked hard to achieve this.
It didn't happen even with intervention...............
My problem is that my choices WERE supported! If I had been more bullied and not such a strong advocate for myself and what I thought was best for my babies I would be a whole lot BETTER off now!

[forshelby]

That's the million dollar question, honey. I wish I had the answers. I'm still terrified of another c/s.