My Ob said WHAT?!? website.....

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

“You can attempt to breastfeed, however all there is right now is colostrum and that’s not good, so we’ll get you some formula.” -OB Resident to new mother

I think I'm gonna start offering my services as an Obstetrician - CLEARLY I have more than the required knowledge!

[Emma1979]

i know its not the point of this thread to chime in... but

my ob said to me at 39 weeks - its a big baby, and it hasn't engaged, if it hasn't engaged within a week i will book you in for a caesarean. I asked what the chances were of me going into labour prior to then and i was told "minimal, maybe 5%". i should have asked him for the tattslotto numbers.
i then of course went into labour within the week and got to 10cm dilation but couldn't quite push her out (given a bit more time i think she would have made it, but apparently there was distress). The ob who did my caesarean (a different one) then told my partner that I would NEVER be able to have a vaginal birth due to the shape of my pelvis. My partner now firmly believes this, and as I attempt my VBAC in under two weeks, I know that my partner believes it will all play out the same as the first time, get to 10cm then caesarean because of my shonky pelvis. I hate going into it with him thinking this, and I have tried to educate him, but the man in the white coat has spoken and he has taken his words as gospel.

I have a lot to prove....

[BellyBelly]

Emma, you'll have to be careful that this doesn't play out in the birth. Thinking you have something to prove is not great - even if only on the surface level, you need someone on your side who can keep you on track rather than those who don't believe in you.

Can you get a doula/student doula? The last thing you want is your mind talking you out of it in labour, when everyone around you is just going to say 'I told you so.' Of course no-one in the room when you were 10cms encouraged you and suggested positions or to move around did they? If a baby is misaligned (if that was the case) the best thing is to get moving as much as possible...

[Fleur]

I know it's OT but - Emma, best of luck for your VBAC

[Emma1979]

well i had had an epidural, but they decided to turn it off/down, so there i was in absolute agony with contractions one on top of the other, but unable to move... it was a nightmare situation... i did manage to get up onto my knees, but i was absolutely exhausted and couldn't hold the position, particularly due to the epidural...
in hindsight when i was in theatre i think i could feel what would have been the urge to push (enormous pressure even with epidural/spinal) but by then i didn't speak up i just wanted her out...

i know its not great going into it with someone who has doubts, but i am a lot better prepared mentally this time, and i have a fab fab fab very pro vbac group of midwives to support me... i'm going to do everything i can to make it work and am in a better head space about it... i've asked all the right questions and feel like i will be able to trust my body this time... the midwife i have been seeing has told me she has a good feeling about me and thinks i will be fine, that she gets great vibes and i am going into it very educated and in the rihgt frame of mind... that has been remarkably encouraging, to hear that i am coming across as very confident.

my partner i suppose thinks that the obs are the experts and is so trusting of their opinion, which is why i want to prove it wrong.... that said, i should bring him along to my next ob appointment, as he hasn't met Dr Simon yet....

sorry this has gone way off topic, didn't mean it to!