I love it! Good on you! You know what you want and how to get it.

I had a good friend who became a midwife herself. Whenever she got deep into labour, she would shoo everyone out of her room and labour entirely alone. There'd be all these people cooped up in the loungeroom while she'd have her peace and privacy in her bedroom. Heaven help anyone who peeked around the door to check on her! No one would go near her until SHE called for them. But she liked them being in the next room. She also hated being called any term of endearment. She was/is a fiercly independent person of strong opinions and is also the survivor of child sexual abuse, and found that a high sense of control over her own boundaries was something very important to her.

By my (limited) observation, I've noticed that strong-minded, independent types (also known as 'control freaks') do very well indeed when it comes to navigating their own labour if left to their own devices. This is a fellow 'control freak' speaking here, right? (I hate being told what to do, too!)

If I was your doula or midwife I'd be in the other room doing a jigsaw puzzle (like that cool doctor in the HBA3C montage!) and I'd wait for you to call on me IF you ever chose to do so!

Good on you, you know what's good for you and I hope everything goes outstandingly well for you.

BTW you can get peace and privacy and a ban on any fussing in places other than a private hospy - and also you might get less monitoring, too. I think at home or in a birth centre YOU get to keep more control, whereas in places where they like to do a lot of monitoring, so THEY can do risk-contol, the temptation is there to meddle more.