I try only to be there if needed. I will normally be in a corner of the room or just outside the room trying to disappear. But to be able to reappear if needed. I always tell mum that I am here to do what she wants, I am not here to tell her what to do. However there are time when mum does want help and some direction. Ultimately it is her body, her baby, her birth. She should have the right to decide what happens.