Fiona.. before hand, I just wanted my mum and hubby there, but just there, but not in my face the whole time.. does that make sense? I just didnt want to be fussed over, but I did want someone to be there with me kwim? I did end up having my mum and hubby there with me, and my midwife only came in about 4 times during the 9 hours I was in labour. I figured, I dont really need her to be there every minute and if I do need her, there is a buzzer and I can just call her using that.