Our DS was born by emergency c-section after labour failed to progress. I found the whole emergecy c-section stressfull, and think that the exhaustion of recovering from the surgery after 24 hrs of no sleep compounded to my struggle after birth including with BF.

So, now that I'm pg with no. 2, the question is do we try for VBAC or do we go for an elective c-section? I am really struggling with this decision.

I know that my least prefered option is to have another emergency c-section.

I am worried about trying for a VBAC and ending up having another emergency c-section, but I am also concerned about the side effects of an elective c-section (including to be honest, public perception as well as the risks of surgery).

My DH will support what ever decision I make. My OB is pushing for a c-section.

I can see benefits in an elective c-section in terms of planning (it would be prefereable for me to be off aspirin before the birth, and as a control freak I would like to know when the baby is coming), improved recovery (elective vs emergency c section) and 5 days in hospital (I may need all that time and help to get my BF going). BUT, I have at the back of my head the fear of something going wrong and that if it did, it might have been avoidable if I had been less selfish (which is kind of what I think of a decision for me to go for an elective c-section) and tried for a VBAC. I guess that I'm also finding it hard to make a decision as my OB will not give me a clear idea of how likely it is that my labour will not progress for a 2nd time.

How how other people made the decision of VBAC vs c section?

Thanks
FG