Now my concern/question is to any out there that can please try help me is, why would i, after hearing all there nasty first experience stories, put myself through the normal option, (ob, lying on back hoping for the best) just to see how i go and put my body under the faith of the hospital system, who sound as though they can intervien uneccesarily, when i can take the advice of alot of women on these forums and use a family birthing centre, or waterbirth or some alterantive techniques from day one to avoid such a traumatic experience that alot of women tend to experience first time round.
I'd just like to say that being in a birthing centre is no guarantee that you will have a wonderful birth experience first time round.

For my first child, I chose this option. I went into the birthing centre as opposed to the labor ward. I had no intervention for 26 hours. I had a grand plan to have a water birth so i spent a lot of time in the water, i had no pain relief, i did all the things suggested to help labor along...i was up walking around, i didnt spend any time on my back, i was in the shower, i had the lights dimmed, I had the music playing, i had the aromatherapy going....you name it, i had it.

and Yet, i ended up with an emergency c-section

so dont believe that the birthing centre is going to make your first birth wonderful....it could do, but then again it may not.