Ally - just wanted to pop in and say that maybe the midwife was playing devils advocate and offering you an option you might not have known existed. If that makes sense??
It follows a breast vs bottle conversation a little while ago where some people feel the medical profession may have let someone who chose to bottle feed down, so maybe all this midwife was doing was ensuring that you knew you could have all the options in front of you if need be - and she would support you.

I think at the end of the day you have to be comfortable with what your plan of attack is. There seems to me to be very little point being persuaded that a VBAC is the way you want to go when you might just end up mentally in a worse way.

Soyeah - just wanted to say that exactly how midwives have to do the whole postnatal depression survey, perhaps they need to discuss all the VBAC vs C/S options to tick off on their list.
Just a thought.