Poor girl, what a shame she didn't get good care. It sounds as though she had a significant blood loss and is likely to be very anaemic from this. Low Hb can make it difficult to establish breastfeeding as Hb levels and blood volume do effect milk production. I think giving her this information, giving her a transfusion if required, iron supplements and the support she needs to establish bf if she wanted to would have been better than saying it will take too much out of her.

I hope she has a good gp and would suggest she contacts the ABA or a good lactation consultant if she really wants to bf. I hope she is recovering ok