When I mentioned how painful to give birth, a friend told me, "This isn't pain like when you've broken your leg, it's not because something is wrong. It's just your body giving you a warning that something big is about to happen, and you need to find a safe and quiet place to have your baby where the lions and bears aren't going to eat you. OK, we've moved on from being eaten by lions and bears, but that's what the pain is for. It's NOT because something is wrong. So find your safe place, and relax into it. It's going to happen whether you let it or not, so give into it, relax and trust your body to do the job it's designed to do."

Find the right people to surround you, and you won't be scared. I don't have much advice but hope ithis is helpful for you.