I am also of the thought that a tear is usually better than an episiotomy..
i had 2 deg tear last time but my ob seems to think this means i am less likely to tear this time (or is he trying to make me feel better?). i mean to do per massage last time, did a little... this time i havent yet but i might give it a go - it cant hurt!
there are some good ideas here... thanks ladies. Mbear maybe i will add a pic of brad to my labour bag!