Look, I know this sounds weird but my second baby and the tearing has actually fixed the first tear.

I had DS1 and I tore - I was consequently stitched up and my vagina was never quite the same. I had a significant scar I could feel and it just wasn't right. With the birth of DS2 I was really worried because the stitch job on DS1 was pretty dodgy. What the heck was going to happen the second time?
OMG, me too

I was so stressed about tearing the second time around as it took me 12 months to feel comfortable DTD after DD's birth.

Well...my GP told me that tearing again would most likely fix my probs from first time around. I birthed in an all fours position with head down, MW had hot washer on peri to help and I panted the head out, only pushing the body as DS had his cord around his neck, and this is where I tore.

BUT saying that I felt amazing second time around, and have had NO discomfort and everything is fixed. DH and I even DTD 4 weeks after giving birth (funny as I waited about 20 weeks last time)

Good luck